I Need To Sort My Life Out!

I Need to Sort My Life Out!

I need to sort my life out!  Life is confusing

When I’m working as a private tutor, I’m constantly asked by parents what sort of questions will come up on the test their child is sitting.  Now whilst I can given them a pretty good idea of the style of questions, I can’t predict the future and this is exactly what our lives are like; we can have a really good idea of what might happen but no one really knows for sure.

In order to answer this question, I always start by giving their child what I call the ‘Foundation Knowledge Checklist’ which is a detailed outline of what they will need to know in order to sit the test because the examiner will never give them that information as it’s a ‘given’ that they know it.  I then go on to teach them to combine those foundation skills with speed and accuracy.

The same rule applies to our everyday adult lives.  We need to have a solid foundation [a focus] in place in order to cope with whatever confusion life throws at us.   Without that, we would crumble and sink like a house built on wet sand.

I need to sort my life out! You only live once

Like many exams, you can only sit them once and this applies to our own life.  So, the foundations we make are really the intentions that we set for ourselves.  As Tony Robbins once said:

“You can’t have a plan for your day, ‘til you have a plan for your life.”

Most of us would say that it is essential for a child to be encouraged to create a structure and routine.  Then, when we reach adulthood, we often lose sight of where our lives are heading and as a result, we retreat into our comfort zone and ‘Better the Devil you know’ attitude.

I remember somebody once saying to me that they would stick out their job as they ‘only’ had fifteen years until they retired!  What a waste because before we know it, those ten or fifteen years have just slipped away.  Just as I teach children to combine knowledge with speed and accuracy so too must we combine intent with speed and accuracy in order to get what we truly want from life.

If we don’t, time will pass whether we take action or not.

I need to sort my life out! What can I do?

A good place to start is a vision board which can be real or virtual.

If you don’t want to have an actual board pinned on your wall, use Pinterest instead then go to the settings and ensure it’s set to ‘private’ if you don’t want anyone else to view it.  However, sharing your intentions is a great way to make sure you stick to them as you’re literally putting the message ‘out there’ for all to see.  This is a great way to get you to stick to goals.  Remind yourself [using a phone/diary reminder] to check into your intentions on a daily basis and take appropriate action to make them happen.

For me personally, I’d struggled to find an exercise regime that  didn’t involve my [now very unpredictable and painful] knees getting pounded.   Even the swimming that I used to love and was really into competitively, was making my knees hurt very badly.  However, I didn’t want to give up [as that’s just an excuse] and I researched until I found Bodyblade.  This works for me as I can do the exercise at home and at a time that I’ve committed to.

Remember:  there is always a way around a problem.

I need to sort my life out!  Get the mindset

Mindset goes hand in hand with health and wellbeing.  We are machines that need to be cared for and fine tuned to work effectively.  It’s funny how we so often say ‘You only live once’, but in all seriousness ‘the time is now’ to set the intentions you want and live that one life without regret.

Ask yourself what is truly within your own power to change.  If it’s your weight/diet, find an exercise and eating regime that works for you and don’t just give up after one or two failed attempts.  If it’s your work, take time to examine your own skills and abilities and don’t just accept second best for the next however many years.  A really good tip is to keep a journal of everything you’re doing.  That journal is your unique story and that story can be used to build out your future when you, for example, write your own blogs.  In turn those blogs could become a book/podcast etc.  Use it as a means of creating your future.

People can and do change but the power to change lies within you and it is only you who can make that decision to take action as opposed to crawling back into your comfort zone.

Life Hack Tip of the day – I need to sort my life out! = Think about good wolf and bad wolf

An old Cherokee Indian told his grandson about the mental battles that happen in our minds. He said, ‘My son, the battle is between two ‘wolves’ inside us all. One is Evil. It is anger, envy, jealousy, sorrow, regret, greed, arrogance, self-pity, guilt, resentment, inferiority, lies, false pride, superiority, and ego.

The other is good. It is joy, peace, love, hope, serenity, humility, kindness, benevolence, empathy, generosity, truth, compassion and faith.’

The grandson thought about it for a minute and then asked his grandfather: ‘Which wolf wins?’

The old Cherokee simply replied, ‘The one you feed.’

And so you see, now the answer lies with you and you alone.  Which one will you decide to feed?

As always, I wish you every success for your digital future!

Rachel A Hill LLB [Hons]

Digital Entrepreneur, Private Tutor and Author

 

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