How do I write a wedding speech?

How do I write a wedding speech?

How do I write a wedding speech?

Everybody’s wedding, be it a traditional or civil ceremony and whatever the gender of the parties is a personal, unique and special experience.  Creating a memory of that one, single day is essential.

Memories can be bad as well as good so prepare your ingredients well!

I particularly like this poem called ‘A Good Wedding Cake’ [author unknown] which evokes for me the very essence of what love and marriage is all about.  It’s about the stuff that money cannot buy magically combined to create the perfect recipe for the couple in question.

A Good Wedding Cake [Author unknown]


4lb of love

1/2lb of sweet temper

1lb of butter of youth

1lb of blindness of faults

1lb of pounded wit

1lb of good humour

2lbs of sweet argument

1 pint of rippling laughter

1 wine glass of common sense

A dash of modesty


Put the love, good looks and a sweet temper into a well-furnished house. Beat the butter of youth into a cream and mix well together with the blindness of faults. Stir the pounded wit and good humour into the sweet argument, then add the rippling laughter and common sense. Work the whole together until everything is well mixed and bake gently for ever.

How do I write a wedding speech?

How do I write a wedding speech?

Tips on ‘How do I write a wedding speech’?

  1. Preparation is key

Months and years can go into planning a wedding and many thousands of pounds.  Yet so often the speech or the words you wish to use during the ceremony itself can get left right to the very last minute.

Give yourself time to work on what you want to say.  Make it personal and real but also practise the speech in a mirror so that you get comfortable with what you want to say.  This will reduce nervousness and give you a chance to memorise bits of the speech so that you can sound more fluent.  Aim for your speech to last about 5 minutes and it should be no more than 10 minutes in length.

  1. Record Yourself

Record yourself on your phone and play it back to yourself in the car, train etc.  Use spare moments effectively to ask yourself whether your would be inspired and amused or bored by what you’ve said.

Be honest.

Listen to the pace and cadence of your voice.  Are you speaking too fast?  Would Aunt Mabel be offended by toilet humour?  Are you speaking too quietly or loudly?

By asking yourself these questions you have ample opportunity to fix any issues before ‘the real thing’.

If you have given yourself enough time you can also use a recording facility as reminders when you get flashes of inspiration or remember that funny time when you were at university together.

There is nothing worse than having an idea and then forgetting it so be prepared!

  1. Know your ending

I also work as a private tutor and I always stress that when you’re writing a story you should know how it ends before you even put pen to paper.  The same applies to a wedding speech as you should build up to a really great ending that will make your guests wish you were going to carry on talking.

Ending on a high point is always better than seeing one of your guests nodding off or checking their watch.

Words can be used to paint a mental picture for your listener which is important as your guests are not privy to all of your relationship history so make your words count in the right way.

  1. Store it on a Cloud Drive

If you’ve typed out an epic speech make sure you save it somewhere safe.

Technology is fabulous but phones and laptops can break or get stolen.  You do not want to add any more layers of stress into your preparation.

Use Google Docs or some other cloud facility so that if the worst did happen you can recover a copy of your speech.  If you use a wedding planner, give them a copy too to have just in case.

  1. Don’t drink too much

There is often a temptation to just ‘let rip’ because the day has arrived.  Drink may make you feel calmer but it can also make you slur your words and lose your focus particularly if you’ve been too nervous to eat as well.

Just remember the saying:  ‘Loose lips sinks ships’

The last thing you want is to waste all your preparatory efforts and veer off into some embarrassing tale involving bodily functions and ‘that night in Marbella after our exams had finished’.

  1. If you need help, hire a professional

If you have asked yourself the question ‘How do I write a wedding speech?’ and come up with a blank, never fear.  I specialise in bespoke wedding poetry that can be used as part or whole of a wedding speech.  It can also be gifted to your ‘other half’ after the speech or gifted privately whichever you prefer.

Here is an example of a 26 line poem created from bespoke questionnaire: –

For My Husband on Our Wedding Day


We met on a Thursday, the fifth of May,

At the Lion of Vienna, my lucky day.

What a vision in lycra, sipping your gin,

A magical moment, an epic win.

Like that day at the races, five years ago,

We certainly saw our finances grow.

You bought some tyres for the ‘babe mobile’,

Took us for a spin and made me squeal.

But I still loved your style, your own brand of slick,

Even with hindsight, you’d still be my pick.

So rewind a few months, we added to the clan,

And Marley the dog became part of the ‘fam’.

The king of all fur kids, a mate with a tail,

You’re a pushover daddy, but still Alpha male.

You love to travel, we’ve seen some places,

A campervan always, no airs and graces.

Listening to Coldplay whilst you drive along,

Made us some memories, it became ‘our song’.

I learned you loved eating beans from the tin,

Not the nicest of habits but hardly a sin.

Relaxing by the ocean, a simple pleasure,

Reading and surfing, at your leisure.

Or walking the beach, Marley in tow,

Watching the sunset till it’s time to go

To the home we call ours, the perfect retreat,

We finally did it so we can put up our feet!


Please contact me to ask more questions or message me at my Facebook page.

I look forward to your bespoke request!

Here’s to life on your terms,


Rachel a.k.a The Life Hack Tutor

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How do I write a wedding speech?

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